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Are You Stuck in a Cycle of Unresolved Pain? | Lysa TerKeurst

Are You Stuck in a Cycle of Unresolved Pain? | Lysa TerKeurst

And if someone takes unfair advantage of you, use the occasion to practice the servant life . . . love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst.”—Matthew 5:42, The Message

When your heart has been shattered and reshaped into something that doesn’t quite feel normal inside your own chest, forgiveness can feel so very unrealistic.

At first, we say it’s too soon.

And then years go by, and we say it’s too late.

In my own life, I knew as a Christian I was supposed to forgive. I may have even whispered a faint prayer using the word forgiveness. But truly understanding how to forgive? I wasn’t sure. And isn’t it odd that, though forgiveness is a major part of the Christian faith, most of us have never been taught much about it?

We know God commands us to do it. But how? Why? When? And are there exceptions?

After nearly a thousand hours of studying this topic in the Bible, I can’t say all my questions have been answered. Nor can I promise this is easy. But I can tell you the Bible offers the truth about forgiveness that our souls desperately need. And, best of all, God Himself modeled how to do this even when it feels impossible.

In the Forgiving What You Can’t Forget Bible study, we’ll be looking at incredibly rich passages throughout Scripture. These truths have meant so much to me personally in my own journey with forgiveness, and I’m believing they’re going to leave you forever changed too.

So, would you join me, open up our hearts, and invite His healing in. Together, we can start seeing beautiful again.

-Lysa TerKeurst

Here’s a look at session one from the study.

  • Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they’re sorry.
  • Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.
  • Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.
  • Identify what’s stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.
  • Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can’t go on living like this, but you don’t know what to do next. And you just don’t know if you’ll ever get past it. In this six-session Bible study, Lysa TerKeurst has walked this journey, wrestling with deep wounds that feel impassible and struggling to move forward. And she’s discovered that, to find life-giving freedom, we have to let go of our bound-up resentment and resistance to forgiving people who’ve hurt us.

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Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the #1 New York Times bestselling author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and Uninvited. She writes from her gray farm table and lives with her family in North Carolina. Connect with her at or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.